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Assert yourself You will need to be assertive about shaping home, family, life and work as you would like them to be. Many people, particularly women, may feel guilty about taking care of themselves, having time to themselves, saying 'no' to others' demands and setting boundaries. There may be a long-standing pattern in your life of fitting in with everyone else's wants and needs and neglecting your own (see Mind's booklets, How to Assert Yourself and How to Increase Your Self-esteem, details on p. 14).
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Talk it through Some people find that talking about their problems with a psychotherapist or a counsellor helps them to make sense of confusing and painful feelings. Counselling may be short-term and focus on immediate practical issues and goals. Psychotherapy tends to be a more long-term process and involves looking at deeply-rooted patterns of behaviour and attitudes, developing an understanding of why we may be trapped in destructive situations and relationships and what we can do to change. See Useful organisations on p. 12 and Mind's booklet, Understanding Talking Treatments, details on p. 14.
Take care of yourself Health professionals stress that it's possible to prevent potential health problems if you make some changes at mid-life. This may involve stopping smoking, cutting down on alcohol, starting an exercise programme and eating healthily. Women may find that distressing menopausal symptoms may well be helped by changing what they eat without having recourse to drugs. Many people find that learning a relaxation technique or meditation, or trying alternative approaches, such as acupuncture and massage, are useful tools in dealing with stress. For more information on taking care of yourself, see Useful organisations on p. 12 and Further reading on p. 14.
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