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This ineffective habit is killing you and telling your children that it is fine to not take care of yourself. You have to go to bed to set the example for your children. When you start getting the sleep you deserve you will find it easier to get up in the morning. Here is the reward to you and your babies: a parent who is not grouchy in the morning. It will happen if you will quit making excuses for staying up late. This is not the only time you can be alone.
This is a simple three-step routine that will make your morning run in a smooth fashion.
You are going to love the peace that this brings to your morning. As these things become a habit, you can add a new habit but do not pile on too many at one time. Take BabySteps.
Next let’s think about your morning. Let’s not think about how it used to be; let use a simple morning routine to get you going without the bad mood.
1. Your first step in the morning is to get up 15 minutes before the rest of the family. You are the director for this routine. You have to be dressed to shoes before the family gets up. I know this sounds difficult because you need coffee to get going and your morning show but stay with me here. It is important that you are fully ready so that when plan B happens you are not standing there in your jammies waiting to start the day when your children get up. Get dressed and get that out of the way first. This is so empowering to your day. Your clothes are already laid out. Hop in the shower, fix your hair, put on your make up, and put on your clothes. You are going to love feeling this good. That extra sleep is going to help. I promise.
2. When your children get up have them get dressed first, too. The longer they stay in their pajamas, the harder it is to pry them out of them. One parent had a rule: You could not eat breakfast until you were dressed to shoes. Don’t worry about them getting breakfast on their clothes; that is what napkins are for. No whining allowed. (No Whine Sign: http://www.flylady.net/d/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/NoWhiningSign.pdf)
3. Tell the whole family what time the school day will start. Always factor in a grace period.
Now for the routine is that is going to help you have more time for yourself. It is your after school routine. The children are not going to like this, but you are the director here and this is an important lesson for everyone.
1. Have an ending time for school. Don’t allow your school time to drag out until dinner time. Children need to know how to meet a deadline. If they are dragging out their school work, find some positive incentives to help them finish up in a timely manner. Tami has trained her children to do their Morning Routine, School, and Afternoon Routine by giving extra time outside for play or going to the park to play in the afternoon. High schoolers need more time to do their school work, but they should be finished with their school day before dinner time each day. The beauty of homeschooling is that your children do not have to do homework. Use your morning and early afternoon hours productively, and you will all have some free time in the afternoons.
A timer is a valuable tool for keeping us focused. We have never been lazy. We just want to have fun. Using a timer allows us to focus on what we have to do and celebrate when it goes off with a little enjoyment; the best of both worlds.
Routines are not the straight jackets we have always thought that they were. They free us up to have fun and keep chaos from hurting us and our children. Use them and you will learn how to be organized. Take Babysteps in establishing your routines and let your timer help to keep you and your babies focused on the fun things in life.
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